When I started this blog it was because I wanted to be able to speak my mind without necessarily sharing it with everyone. Now that I look around and find others writing blogs like the ones I’ve been wanting to write I have to wonder- what the heck is stopping me? The truth is, where else can I talk about how my child gets frostbite inside of her school, or how when she woke up this morning it was a bad leg day? Or how my oldest is sad because she had 2 major disappointments in the same day? Yeah, I went about this the wrong way. So, let’s start over. Hi! My name is Danielle. Most people call me Dee. I have an awesome family that are all very supportive. There’s my husband, Kevin. We’ve been together since 1993. Then there’s Ashley. She’ll be 16 in September. Next came Emily (the Princess) and then Zachary. Emmy’s 8 and Z is 7. They are truly an amazing group. I am really so blessed to have them. Yeah, we have our days, but for the most part I wonder what it was that I did to find this much joy. Kevin is my equal. I don’t mean to say that I’m just as strong as him or whatever. That would be stupid. But we respect each other. I believe that marriage is about working together as a team. Thank God he feels the same way. We’ve sure had our issues, we’ve been through stuff, but at the end of the day when I’m tired or sad he’s who I turn to. Next would probably be my parents. I also thank God for them every day. Even at almost 35 I still need them. I really enjoy them, too. They have also been very supportive. I don’t want to paint us as the “perfect family”. We have our share of issues, but we all get along, we all love each other and like each other.
If it wasn’t for medical stuff we’d have it made. In my last post when I said I didn’t love my life… that would be why. Especially, at the time when I wrote that I was still adjusting to Emily’s issues and Kevin’s, too. Kevin had his thyroid yanked in February of 2009. He had a multi-nodular toxic goiter. Pretty much, he had several cysts that were pressing up against his eusophagus and making it hard to breathe. They even found a tiny cancerous spot. Emily, however, takes the cake with the medical stuff. With her arthritis she’s on 2 immune suppressors so she gets sick a lot. She has arthritis in almost every joint, so she suffers from chronic pain and stiffness. She’s been on Enbrel for about a year & a half now, and it’s helped a LOT, but she still has some issues and she’ll still flare. She’s only flared twice, but it lasted a week, stopped a week then started right back up. When she flares she gets what look like big hives on her joints. She won’t always have swelling where she’s flaring, though. She’s so brave it amazes me. I have a high pain tolerance, but I can also be a wimp. When I get sick (sinus infection, cold, etc.) I know I’m a whiner. When that girl gets sick you couldn’t tell. I can’t believe that one child can be so strong and brave, but she is. She is my role model. Is that weird? I have learned so much from her; things like how to be a better person, how one should behave… she has taught me. I am amazed by all of my kids, and again I’m so thrilled with all of them, but she is special in a way that so few are. And the things that she deals with every day… with grace!!! I tend to feel not good enough sometimes. However, I know that I pour my soul into helping her, so I guess that counts for something.
I want the world to be aware of the things that she goes through. Mostly, when she’s older I don’t want her to have people accuse her of not being in pain when she is. I want people to continue to help her the way that she’s been helped. She has had the kindest, sweetest people in her life thus far. It’s like she’s a little ball of sunshine and all of the good people are drawn to her. She tends to bring out the best in people. Maybe this will change when she’s older, but I hope not. Quite simply she makes people better. For a while, I had the “oh, woe is me/us” attitude. Try this the next time that you feel that you have problems. Go to http://www.caringbridge.org . Check out a profile. Many of these profiles are for children. Some are older, 16 or 17 and going through things like cancer. Then there are 6 yr olds Kate McRae & Allyson Perry who both have brain cancer. Kate has been fighting for 9 months so far, whereas Ally fought, won, was in remission and now has a fresh, new tumor. They are currently in different cities receiving radiation. Or the DIPG kids. (That’s diffuse intrinsic pontine glioma, if I remember correctly.) DIPG has affected several kids that I have had the privledge of following. It is an inoperable brain tumor on the stem. It is non-responsive to chemo, and radiation is only buying time unless God has a divine intervention planned. These kids and families go through true hell. Arthritis sucks, it is a lifetime of pain. But at least it isn’t being trapped inside of your own broken body. See how I feel blessed? I have learned so much, & I have been changed so much by our battles. Emily’s disease has actually been a blessing in some ways. I would never have wished that upon anyone, but it did bring our family closer. It has made me so much better. I went from the deep depression to truly joy-filled! Without counseling or meds! I want to share things that I have learned. From accept what you cannot change, but fight for everything that you can to laugh at the things that frustrate you. It may not change the situation but it can sure make you feel better!
The last thing to touch on tonight, the other reason that I started this blog. Ok, we as people are ALL messed up and broken. I know I am, and it makes me happy. By knowing that I am free! I wanted to more deeply explore my relationship with Christ. I don’t know that I will be able to effectively do that or not. If it happens it happens. I try hard not to judge, to let people be people. If you don’t like that, it’s cool. Ya’ll know where that red X is. The thing is that I love Jesus, and I want to be a better person for Him, I want to do His work, and I want to become closer still to Him in a deeper personal relationship. Nope, I’m not a fanatic, or a cultist. You don’t have to share my beliefs, and I won’t judge you if you’re Wiccan or Pagan, or Buddhist. I’m free to be me, you’re free to be you. Ok, /rant off. I will try to post at least weekly, and definitely whenever something is newsworthy. I can’t change the world, but it can’t hurt to try! 😉